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Three Reasons Why Husbands Cheat – A Surprising Discovery

January 9, 2012 By Leave a Comment

Article by Megan Allstead

One of the hardest things a wife can go through in life is the realization that her husband has been cheating. We immediately try to find within ourselves the reasons why he cheated. Following the anger and shock, comes the low self esteem and lack of purpose. We want to know why and who is this other woman that turned our life upside down. Discovering who your husband cheated with can be painful but nothing is more shocking than when we discover that the reasons he cheated may have nothing to do with you.

Researchers have shown that cheating is usually a decision that has little to do with the partner cheated on. It is more a conflict within the cheater. Low self esteem, lack of confidence and age can sometimes be behind the decision to have an affair. Men usually don’t deliberately go out looking for a way to hurt their partner. However, some feel the need to prove to themselves that they still can achieve the same results that they did when younger. In this case, cheating is also not linked to the person they choose to cheat with. They could actually be the instrument to fulfill a temporary emotional need and more often than not forgotten once that emotion is replaced with fear and guilt. An affair can be the way cheating husbands find to seek emotional reassurance rather than for physical attributes.

Lack of maturity is also a common reason for husbands to cheat. Mature men tend to have more conviction of their choices and the sacrifices that need to be made in order to be successful in a relationship. Commitment is not such a big step when we know our marriage is healthy and fulfilling.

For many couples it is difficult to admit that after the birth of a child or due to stressful jobs their sexual life slows down quite a bit. For husbands, this can be particularly difficult when flirtation and fantasy is also gone. Partners need to discuss ways of keeping the “spice” in the relationship and make time for them. Introducing healthy fantasies can also keep them sexually attracted to each other avoiding curiosity that can lead to infidelity.

With so many studies on cheating husbands, is difficult to know all the different reasons why men cheat. But it is important to consider many possibilities before reaching the wrong conclusions. Often spouses of cheating husbands beat themselves over something they have no control. Understanding your partner can be the beginning of a stronger and happier life with or without him

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Catch a Cheating Husband

October 30, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Over the years, a number of studies have been performed to determine information specific to a cheating spouse. Compiled information shows that 85% of women who believe their spouse is having an affair are right. In addition, these studies show that 50% of men who feel the wife is cheating, is right. Therefore, if you are married and your gut is telling you that something is wrong, chances are in your favor that something suspicious is going on.

In this article, we wanted to address some of the ways in which you could catch a cheating husband. Obviously, the future of the marriage would depend on recognizing the telltale signs of an affair. If the affair were confirmed, then a couple would need to decide the future direction of the marriage. Of course, the wife would need to decide if she were willing to stay and work hard to rebuild the marriage or move on.

Interestingly, more than 800 different signs can show if a husband is cheating, some that you may find surprising. Although we cannot cover them all in one article, we did want to provide you with the various categories in which these signs fall, as well as a few specific things you could watch for if suspicious of your husband cheating.

•Physical Appearance – If you were to notice your husband taking greater interest in his physical appearance, you might wonder why. For instance, a sudden interest in working out at the gym, wearing hair in a new style, different or new clothing, and overall personal hygiene could all be signs of an affair.

•Relating to the Wife – Sometimes, a cheating husband will begin to act

differently to the wife. For instance, the husband may no longer be interested in conversation, he may stop opening the car door, or perhaps he no longer wants to dine out for date night, and so on. While these signs are not definite for an affair, they could be indicators.

•Conversation/Communication – Often times, a husband having an affair will become quiet. This means normal conversation/communication diminishes or stops altogether.

•Work Habits – A cheating husband will try to find ways of getting out of the home, using work as an excuse. Therefore, you would find him attending more long or after-hour meetings, needing to travel out of town, or blaming overload on spending more hours at the office.

 

 

 

 

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